Why I Changed My Book Cover (Just Three Months After Publishing It)

When I started writing Parenting Through Divorce: The 3 Keys to Building an Unshakable Bond With Your Children, I poured my heart into every page.

At the time, my children had been going through crippling anxiety and couldn't let me out of their line of sight and after months of researching books, articles, podcasts, and talking to health practitioners, I leaned on my own somatic practice to help support them.

I ended up creating age-appropriate somatic practices, practical exercises, and connective conversations to guide my children through those anxious moments. What happened next both amazed and relieved me. The change was palpable and the shift dramatic in both of them. 

I shared those practices, exercises, and conversations that helped our family find stability again in my book, and wrote the book I'd wished I’d had when I was navigating divorce.

The readers have since shared that it has changed a lot for them. Some people told me the book made them cry. Others called it a lifeline. One person said it felt like a hug.

That’s exactly what I hoped it would be: a book that feels like a friend passing you a warm mug of tea who sits down to chat with you, open and without judgement.

But the original book cover didn’t quite reflect that.

Function over feeling

When I was preparing to launch the book, the advice I received was:
Be clear. Be functional. Make sure people know exactly what the book is about.

So I followed that advice. The result is that my title is clear. The subtitle explains the outcome. And the cover, while clean and thoughtful, leaned into function.

It was meant to signal: Here’s a practical guide to parenting through divorce. But my work has never been just practical.

I’m a trauma-informed somatic practitioner. My work is anchored in the body. It's about creating presence and noticing how things feel.

The first cover spoke from the head. But this book cover speaks from the heart.

Presence over performance

The practices I share in my book aren’t about doing more. They’re about coming back to being present with yourself. Offering yourself gentleness and acknowledgement.

They’re also about learning how to be with your child’s grief, without rushing to fix it. How to navigate the mess of co-parenting, without losing yourself. How to stay grounded in your own body, even when everything else feels uncertain.

That’s the energy I want my book to hold.

And that’s what the new cover reflects.

The new design

The new cover is simple. It feels like vibration, resonance, and what shifts when you stop trying to hold everything together... and start learning how to be with what’s here. It feels like what my own journey has been like, and what I support other parents in as well. And it's all thanks to my long-time friend Alison Garnett at Field Trip & Co who brought my sentiments to life in this new book cover.

Because the work I talk about in this book isn’t about finding the right blocks and making them fit... which is what the original book cover was designed around. Instead, this work is about honouring the fact that life doesn’t always fit neatly and finding resonance anyway.

If there's one thing I want you to know, it's this:

You don’t need to parent perfectly.
You don’t need to heal overnight.
You just need to show up... first for yourself, then for your children.

Why I’m sharing this

I decided to write a blog post about this because I think someone out there needs to hear it:

You’re allowed to change your mind.
You’re allowed to evolve.
You’re allowed to realize when no longer feels right.

And you’re allowed to choose again.

I still love the first cover.
But I’ve also grown.
And I want everything I share to reflect who I am and my process.

The book with the new cover will be available very soon over the next week or two, and the words inside remain the same: grounded, supportive, and from the heart.

💜 Learn more about my book here

With love,

Vivian